I need some advice from someone with boys. Its hard for me to complain, because I have great kids. Josiah has always been very sweet and helpful. I never have to worry about a bad report from sunday school or MDO. But, for the first time lastnight I saw a different side to Josiah. He, on purpose pushed his little brother hard enough that he has a huge purple knot on his forhead. What kills me is he knew what he was doing. We did our usual time out and that didn't work. He tried to make him understand what he did and wanted him to feel bad for what he had done. Not the case. I guess I need some different tactics. Don't get me wrong, Josiah is not a saint, but he his very well behaved and is a great kid. I know that he has been through a lot this year and maybe its just the jealous issue. Jackson has been really sick and has demanded a great deal of our time. Dan and I have tried our best to give him the attention he needs. The last year has been tough and I still find myself processing what really happened, so I guess its fair to say maybe he is going through the same thing. Anyway, I would love some mommy advice.
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I don't have boys, but my girls go through spells where they argue, fuss, and fight. We tell them that it's okay to be angry but never okay to hurt one another. We seperate them and then we make them hug and in cases where one is picking on the other, we seperate them from the entire family. Time out in their room alone. Then we make them listen to us....seriously, it's tough, but you have to tell them over and over again, it's never okay to hurt the other person. We have even had to spank in certain cases. It ususually only takes a few times, and then they get the message. Hope that helps some. Love you!
got 2 boys...make the rules clear...follow through. But watching my friends who have girls versus boys...boys tend to be rougher with each other. recently sim's teacher said he has a heart of compassion...the next week he punched a kid in the stomach.
Yes, boys are much more physical. Sometimes a push is about the same as saying, "hey" to boys. At that age they don't think through it like you would as an adult. It wouldn't occur to him that he's bigger than his brother and stronger and what would happen if he hits his head, etc. etc. If you can get him to think about what could happen in that kind of situation it's the first step to him thinking twice the next time.
The good news about boys is they are mad one minute, say what they think and get over it fast. Just wait until they are teenagers and want to beat each other up over the XBox or what TV show they're going to watch. The fun has just begun!
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